tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3227801669278401053.post3402260276064264674..comments2023-10-29T11:51:45.600+00:00Comments on Bad Penny.: What's In A Name?Pennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13140441387378978556noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3227801669278401053.post-27764179889951798322011-07-12T20:04:48.108+01:002011-07-12T20:04:48.108+01:00That reminds me of the Sikh tradition of Singh for...That reminds me of the Sikh tradition of Singh for men and Kaur for women, though there is of course a personal surname in there somewhere as well.<br /><br />I think this all shows that there are so many different ways of doing it - it's not just 'take his surname or don't' - that it really is a case of discovering what's right for the two of you. You could make up an entirely new custom. Or an entirely new name. Maybe Smyzier, or Brayth!kthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06391109535304087456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3227801669278401053.post-46446971046123954312011-07-12T19:44:26.219+01:002011-07-12T19:44:26.219+01:00I was always going to keep my maiden name professi...I was always going to keep my maiden name professionally (both fitness and writing) but I think I surprised myself with my willingness to change my name privately. I don't know where the burst of traditionalism came from, but I'm regretting trumpeting it from the rooftops now I'm starting to have second thoughts!<br /><br />I suppose it is a bit ridiculous that people like the future brother-in-law still react in such an extreme way to people keeping their name, when as you rightly say, it's very rare that a man changes his surname to his wife's.<br /><br />Annoyingly, on honeymoon (what about thinking of this 5 months earlier??) Sam said that if I HAD opted to keep my maiden name then we could have given any girl children my surname, or a boy child his. Which is exactly what a college friend of mine's parents did. Their mother sadly passed away last year after a long illness, and their daughter now has their mum's maiden name. Which is really, really lovely.Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13140441387378978556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3227801669278401053.post-59780931424462826902011-07-12T18:56:09.118+01:002011-07-12T18:56:09.118+01:00(by the way, I don't really know why this is a...(by the way, I don't really know why this is a subject that fascinates me so much, when I will never be making the decision myself!)kthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06391109535304087456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3227801669278401053.post-16939745086403268232011-07-12T18:38:19.666+01:002011-07-12T18:38:19.666+01:00There was a lot of discussion about this the other...There was a lot of discussion about this the other night, when my friend told her soon to be brother-in-law that she was keeping her surname. He was horrified, and said that if his parents knew they probably wouldn't go to the wedding. But for her, she said she's a ***, and would always be a ***, and her husband to be understands that. She then asked all the blokes in the room whether they would ever consider changing their name to their wives, and the answer was always a resounding no. (Several of those men are already married to women who kept their own surname so there were no double standards there...except from the future brother-in-law ;) )<br /><br />Ooh, one of the women there was Spanish, and in Spain there's no tradition of taking the husband's surname. Her husband there wasn't any question of her taking his name, and he liked that he was joining a Spanish family and taking on at least one of their customs.<br /><br />I think I only know one couple who've gone double barrelled...or at least she is on Facebook, while a number of other journos (of the up north bunch!) have kept their name professionally, but switched privately.kthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06391109535304087456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3227801669278401053.post-86969624299518917672011-07-12T12:46:38.988+01:002011-07-12T12:46:38.988+01:00I know! He's not so keen, probably due to a li...I know! He's not so keen, probably due to a lifetime of people making bad jokes about his surname...I like the idea of gaining a family name while keeping my family name. The humour element of it is only a small part...honestly *looks around innocently*.Crystahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17377971391289042003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3227801669278401053.post-49185171081319198492011-07-12T12:31:44.977+01:002011-07-12T12:31:44.977+01:00Campbell-Still is such a great double-barrel!!
Px...Campbell-Still is such a great double-barrel!!<br /><br />PxPennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13140441387378978556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3227801669278401053.post-62150580839352674832011-07-12T10:42:56.741+01:002011-07-12T10:42:56.741+01:00I always imagined I would change my name. Till my ...I always imagined I would change my name. Till my dad asked me one day why my facebook status says I'm Still going out with Corey. I then told him that's the boyfriends surname...Still. My Dad looked at me and said when you get married (my heart still rejoices at that, my dad did NOT like his little girl having a boyfriend), I'll have to sort that out.<br /><br />It got me thinking. I love the history of my surname, but equally, I would be joining his family. Plus, I love the humour of ours double-barreled. I could be Crysta Campbell-Still. Or, Crysta Still-Campbell. <br /><br />But, ultimately, I think its the bride's decision to make. Can't stand people who say you should do one or the other. After all, its going to be your name for the rest of your life!Crystahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17377971391289042003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3227801669278401053.post-51376630520741608082011-07-11T21:06:41.489+01:002011-07-11T21:06:41.489+01:00Aha! That's why I'm on the fence!Aha! That's why I'm on the fence!Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13140441387378978556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3227801669278401053.post-39634127534735920232011-07-11T20:09:36.453+01:002011-07-11T20:09:36.453+01:00interesting observation (to me anyway)...all my fr...interesting observation (to me anyway)...all my friends down south who've got married have kept their name or plan to, while most women I know who've married up north have changed it. <br /><br />you're a midlander of course, so all bets are off ;) <br /><br />xkthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06391109535304087456noreply@blogger.com